If you are a man and want to shock your colleagues, all you have to do is come to work in a dress. If you are a woman and want to completely ruin the lives of the people around you - just grow a beard. We are talking about people desperately clinging to gender roles, and those who go beyond the established framework, in the eyes of others, become freaks. No one knows this better than a shemale.
We talked to Roman Jones, a transgender and an American expat living in the Czech Republic. And here is what he told us ...
1. Your daily routine becomes terribly difficult
When your main goal is to dress so that your body looks completely different from what it looks like, the rush is not for you. I could write whole books about this process. Firstly, first you need to hide the chest, for which drag it with special tightening clothes. Many transgender people use elastic bandages for this, but this can cause a lot of problems, because they push all the fat directly onto the stomach, causing the skin on it to become flabby. The resemblance to sharpei does not appeal to me at all, so I use a sports bra the old-fashioned way. You may be surprised, but a well-chosen sports bra can turn Christina Hendrix into Justin Bieber.
Next is the fastening of the penile prosthesis, which is very similar to the real one. Many of us love to wear them simply because we feel more confident. Therefore, often they are purely cosmetic in nature. But sometimes they function more or less like real members, equipped with devices for urinating and even simulating an erection. Modern technology does not cease to amaze. I just got such a thing. She's gorgeous. It is a pity that I can not meet with the creators of this device to shake their hands.
Then comes the turn of clothes, and at this moment a real miracle happens. Several layers of spacious clothing help hide female forms. Holders of large buttocks must wear tightening shorts or trousers. And you can make inserts in shoes to appear taller without high heels. That's right, women are not the only masters of optical illusions. Complete your look with a large shabby coat and an ugly hat, and voila - you are Eminem.
2. Dating is almost impossible
When you are just in the process of changing external sexual characteristics, you occupy an ambiguous place between men and women. Surprisingly, I understood from my own experience that homosexuals are especially cruel to those who are not like them. It would seem that they should be more tolerant, because they themselves are often discriminated against. But no. Believe me, the female genitals are terribly interfering with me myself, but it was unpleasant more than once to hear from them in their address a "freak with two holes." On the other hand, straight men will not touch you either, because you are too assertive than you can scare homophobes. Oddly enough, women of a traditional orientation are more likely to meet trans-men, but that doesn’t help if you are attracted to guys. Mostly my only options are other trans men or trans-friendly bisexuals.
Due to the oppressive loneliness and feelings of worthlessness that may arise as a result of this struggle, trans men can often start to behave aggressively, as if this is the best they can do. Fortunately, my story has a happy ending: I met my fiancé, another transgender man. And we met very trite - at work. Who knew that anything could happen this way?
3. The level of medical care is terrible
Reconstructive plastic surgery is not always included in the plans of a person who changes sex. If you still decide on an operation, then, studying the issue, you will find so much frightening information that you will think twice whether you need it. I would like to have a real working phallus, but the reality is too terrifying. Although treatment standards have improved significantly in recent years, the percentage of complications after phalloplasty is still absurdly high. And there is a high probability that your new body will not even work. I think I'll stay with my hardware prosthesis for now.
Even breast removal surgery (mastectomy) can be performed incorrectly and lead to such “delightful” things as nerve damage and drooping nipples. I don’t understand why this operation, which is usually performed without complications for women with breast cancer, is so difficult for trans men to tolerate. We have the highest risk of health problems and even suicides. Trans men are more likely to suffer from ovarian cancer. This problem was raised in a documentary on the fight against the disease of a transgender male Robert Eads after he could not find a single doctor who would agree to treat him.
Robert Eads This is all very scary because in the community of transgender men they do not like to talk about health problems. A visit to the doctor at the last moment is so feminine! Yes, the gender roles that are driven into the brain follow you to the ends of the world. We also often remain unemployed, because people react very strange to us and do not want to hire. This means that we do not receive medical insurance.
There is a huge black market for things like testosterone. I will not tell you where he is, because I can not afford to pay a lawyer. But the substance that you can find there can really wake the animal within you. Especially the horse. Fortunately, my fiancé can get testosterone for free as part of the public health system of the Czech Republic, and until recently I couldn’t take advantage of such opportunities. Without insurance, I could not even visit my doctor as often as needed. Nevertheless, it could have been much worse, because ...
4. In some countries it’s still worse
It is incredibly difficult for a transgender in the United States to find a doctor who will at least take him for a routine medical examination, much less advise on transition issues. Even if you find someone, you may be denied access to hormones or denied surgery if, for whatever reason, they decide that you are "not trans enough." Trans-friendly doctors do exist, especially in large cities, but too many of us do not even have time to find them - because of the appallingly high level of suicides and violence against transgender people in the USA. I once read an interview with an American doctor who said: “I would like to treat more trans-people, but they continue to die, never reaching me.”
That is why I initially decided to move to Canada. But even in the land of gays and beer, it was difficult to find a trans-friendly doctor. The only one I managed to find examined mainly prostitutes. Thus, I was also considered a prostitute (one day I sat in the front desk for two hours, surrounded by bleeding prostitutes, almost like in the show Breaking Bad). Then I heard that in South Korea they treat transsexuals very well, and immediately rushed there. But as soon as I got to the place, I realized that they were “trans-friendly” only with respect to trans women. Unlike the rest of the world, which simply ignores or kills us, they actually don’t even believe in trans men. For some reason, Korean prostitutes wear men's clothes, so I know in my own skin who we can be mistaken for on the streets in this country. The jokes that fell after me, I would not call funny.
The Czech Republic, where my fiancé lived, was a real success for me. Here you will not be tried by Lynch, you will not be beaten on the street, and the number of suicides is much lower. People do not even shout at each other. In the first week of my life here, I saw a homosexual couple holding hands on the train, and no one told them anything. Everything is still expensive, because I live in the Czech Republic for only one year and am not yet a citizen of the country, but still life here is much cheaper than in North America. It's like leaving your terrible little town after graduating from high school and going to college in a big city.
5. Testosterone changes everything
Hormones can do a lot, and often hormone replacement therapy is safer than surgery. But not everything is so rosy. I'm just getting ready to take hormones, but my fiance has been going through this procedure for a long time, and I see how it is done. Once a month you are given an injection with a huge needle. Testosterone must be mixed with oil, and therefore the needle must be so thick that this mixture can pass through it. Thus, you are standing with a giant needle sticking out of your buttocks for almost a minute, after which you are sent home, and the injection site will hurt for several more days. You probably think that simple drugs can do nothing more serious than the appearance of new strange hair or an increase in muscle volume. But the changes are so amazing that if you yourself saw them and told you that this person had not undergone any operations, you would never have believed in this. Your whole body is reconfiguring. Your hips and buttocks become less pronounced as fat migrates to the beer belly of your dreams. The chin line becomes sharper, the neck is thicker, and the face becomes completely different. My fiance began to look like a completely different person, fortunately, also quite nice. But not only physical changes occur. Due to the effect that various hormones have on the mind, transsexuals of both sexes who have undergone hormone therapy are a storehouse of information about the differences between men and women. Describing his experience using testosterone, one trans-man openly says, “I felt like a monster.” He completely stopped thinking about randomly met women as people. In his imagination, pornographic thoughts and pictures immediately appeared. That guy was taking an unreasonably large dose, but most trans-men who use testosterone agree that it increases libido and aggressiveness, and this can shock others.
6. You are invisible
Western culture has come a long way from portraying transgender people as villains or clowns. People now receive Oscars for this. But name at least one film that shows the life of a trance man. You say, “Guys don't cry”? Do you know how many reviews Brandon Tin was called a masculine lesbian?
Hilary Swank in the role of Brandon Tina, the movie “Boys Don't Cry”. On Wikipedia, a page about transgender movie and TV show characters lists five times as many trans women than men. In fact, in life there are three trans-women for one trans-male, which is very strange, because there is no biological justification for this. Judging from my experience, this is because many transmen simply prefer not to identify themselves. It is much easier and more socially acceptable to identify yourself as a masculine lesbian, because it is quite difficult to cope with homophobia in our society. People tend to perceive masculine women more than effeminate men. Transgender men are simply not visible in the public eye because they do not advertise themselves. And, as a result, it is impossible even to find out how many of us, or to create a community. This is a vicious circle of invisibility, like a snake biting its own tail and not able to see anything but him. That is why it is important for us to stop being afraid to openly declare to the world about our masculine nature.
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What attracts men to them? Why do men uncontrollably strive for loving relationships and sex with transgender people? What caused the serious demand for "ladyboys" - men with silicone female breasts and male penis.
Here are the main reasons for this:
- The effect of novelty. In the essence of any desire, the desire for something new is hidden. People are encouraged to new actions by the desire to change jobs, hobbies, sexual partners. They want something impressive, unpredictable, amazing. The first contact with the ladyboy is a desire to satisfy curiosity. You have to try something new, special, unfamiliar, even unrepresentable.
- At all times transgender people were controversial. Contact with them can be seen as a challenge to society and an opportunity to ignore generally accepted norms and rules, to violate social “is impossible”.
- Any sexual relationship is a kind of secret. A close relationship with a transsexual does not everyone dare to flaunt. Secret meetings, conspiracy, secrecy - this is an opportunity to raise adrenaline in the blood, and men simply need it.
- The guarantee that children will not appear from the connection with the “ladyboy” takes off responsibility, tension and completely liberates.
- According to Freud, there are two sides that cannot be crossed - these are age and gender. "Ladyboy" crossed the line. This is a man ready to take and a woman ready to give.
- A man entering into sexual contact with a transsexual, and identifying with him, is able to experience his feelings and desires and at the same time feel like two stars men and women.
- Outrageous fashion now. You can stand out from the crowd, be different from others, in different ways. It may turn out that the craving for "ladyboy" lies in the fashion trends of our time.
- A great opportunity for a man with his own well-concealed unconventional sexual inclinations, realize yourself in the role that you like more.
- Sexual abnormalities, mental disorders, an inferiority complex that requires compensation may give an impetus to have sex with a transsexual.
You can perceive people of different sexual orientations in different ways. But the fact that they are part of society, and some are parents, children or partners, and their number is growing, remains to be recognized as a fact.
This year is generous with the harvest of transgender people, which only costs one transformation of stepfather Kim Kardashian Bruce Jenner into Caitlin Jenner. However, there are many transsexuals, but there are much fewer celebrities. Today we will tell you about the famous transsexuals who went down in history.
Caitlin Jenner
Former Olympic athlete, star of the reality show and stepfather of the famous Kim Kardashian, after an official statement and gender reassignment surgery, transformed from Bruce to Caitlin in 2015.
Laverna Cox
Laverna became famous thanks to the filming in the popular American TV series "Orange - the hit of the season", in which she played the role of Sofia Barset. Laverna was the first transsexual nominated for the Primetime Emmy Award.
Janet Mock
A former employee of People magazine, responsible for staff recruitment, changed sex at age 18 and publicly declared herself as a woman in Marie Claire magazine in 2011. Since then, she has become a representative of transgender rights, thanks to her series of Redefining Realness memoirs published in the New York Times.
Andrey Pezhich
Andrew gained popularity as a male supermodel, who could show on himself both male and female clothes. In 2014, he changed sex, and said that from now on he wants to be perceived as a woman.
Caroline Cosey
The British actress and model who auditioned for the role of the Bond girl for the twelfth film about Agent 007 "Just for Your Eyes" and was a model for Playboy magazine in 1980.
Jenna Talakova
The Canadian model, which hit the headlines of all famous publications and broke all the barriers. In 2012, she fought for legal admission to the Miss Universe Canada contest. Well, at least she won the Miss Congeniality title.
Alexis Arquette
Born in the famous acting family of Arquette under the name Robert. Alexis played minor roles in several films, and her transition from man to woman was described in the 2007 film Alexis Arquette: She's My Brother.
Isis King
Isis starred in the 11th and 17th seasons of the American Top Model reality show. She was the first transgender woman to compete in the show, and became one of the most visible transgender on television.
Chaz Bono
Sonny and Cher's only child (yes, the same Cher). Chaz (from the birth of Chastity) documented his transition from woman to man in the 2011 Become Chaz movie.
Sylvia Rivera
An American transvestite gay activist and transgender rights activist, Rivera was one of the founders of Gay Liberation Front and the Gay Activist Alliance. Sylvia actively helped transgender people in need, including homeless transvestites and black transgender people.
Kristin Jorgenson
Born by George William Jr., Jorgenson fought in the U.S. Army during World War II, and went through a series of gender reassignment operations in Denmark after her service.
Candy Darling
Candy was born into the world as a boy named James Lawrence Slatteri. Candy Darling was an American transgender actress who starred in the films Flesh (1968) and Babi Riot (1971), produced by Andy Warhol, and was also the muse for the rock band The Velvet Underground.
Carmen Carrera
Reality star, model and burlesque actress with stunning shapes that any woman can envy.
Ian Harvey
Born with the name Janet, Harvey is a transgender comedian who changed sex at 32 years old. Harvey became famous for his work with Margaret Cho, with whom he toured and starred as a regular member of her off-Broadway comedy review.
Lana Wachowski
He is one of the most successful film producers in the world (half of the duo formerly known as the Wachowski brothers). She helped create the highly successful franchise of the famous Matrix, as well as dozens of other famous films, including V for Vendetta and Cloud Atlas.
Lea Ti
Born as a boy with the name Leandro, in 2014 Lea was elected the face of the famous Redken brand, which produces professional hair cosmetics. This made her the first transgender model to be the face of an international cosmetic brand.
Raffy Friedman-Gurspan
He is the first transgender to be hired by the White House. Raffy was appointed by Barack Obama in 2015 to fulfill outreach responsibilities and help recruit directors.
Nadia Almada
Born with the name Jorge Leodoro, Almada is a British reality television star who became the first transsexual to win Big Brother in the fifth season of 2004.
Coxinel
Born with the name Jacques Charles Dufresnoy, she took the stage name Coxinel (Coccinelle, "ladybug" in French) before entering the show business. In 1953, she became famous as a transgender dancer, performing in the art cafe Chez Madame Arthur. She was the first public advocate for sexual rights in Europe, where she was a national celebrity and famous club singer.
Balian Bushbaum
Yvonne Bushbaum was once an Olympic athlete from Germany specializing in pole vaulting. In 2007, Yvonne announced her retirement from big sport and began preparations for a sex change to subsequently become a man named Balian. Balian participated in the German version of Dancing with the Stars.
Loise Lamers
In addition to her irresistible appearance, Loise is the first transgender to win the show “Top Holland Model” in 2015. The main prize of the show was a contract with the modeling agency Touche Models for 50 thousand euros.
For various reasons, it is in Thailand, and more precisely in one of the cities, the number of transvestites, or as they are called lady fights, is off the charts. Basically, newly made young ladies go to work as waiters, guides, masseurs, hairdressers, sellers, but who else. The rest (probably those who especially want to feel like women, go prostitution on Walking Street). There are also world-famous shows “Alcazar” and “Tiffany”, where all the actors of a colorful musical performance are boys. As a result of the huge amount of hormones and difficult childhood, if you stare at them or tease with a camera, you can get it on the head. Therefore, I immediately apologize for the quality of the photos. Here is what I know about transvestites: 
For 100,000 baht (and the baht is approximately equal to the ruble), you can completely do the sex change operation. Including all braces and plastic. Some do the operation because it is impossible to find work, some because they feel like women from childhood. 
Some do not fully modify the external sexual characteristics. Because it is exotic, for which many tourists come. 
If in Pattaya you see a beautiful and tall Thai girl, then most likely she is not a girl. You can distinguish a boy from a girl by voice, size of arms / legs and Adam's apple. 
Almost every Thai, of any gender, has been practicing Thai boxing since childhood, at the same time people are very conflict-free and friendly (almost anywhere you will not hear quarrels and abuse). The most terrible fights occur between transvestites. Due to the large number of hormones, many of them become aggressive and inadequate. In addition, they cannot stop in a feminine way, and the strength is still masculine. Most transvestites do not live to be 30 years old. 
Either because of religion, or because of the general goodwill of Thais, no one condemns men who have decided to become women, are indifferent and do not focus on this. Many transvestites have a family and children. 
Even after a sex change, the passport is not changed. In the passport, the male gender and name remain. The only way to change documents is to win the Tiffany transvestite annual beauty contest. 
Unlike the main population of Thailand, lady fights often speak English, are more sociable and sociable. It’s interesting to talk with them and for a small fee they can become good guides and translators for you. 
Transvestites are very mannered - these flirty girls are hard to find. They love gallantry and attention. At the same time, they can sit in their “male” circle, laugh and burp loudly :) 
Many of them move very well - even women rarely possess such plasticity and stretching. By the way, this moment surprised me especially - it always seemed to me that men by nature are more “wooden” and nothing can be done about it. 
I almost did not see any disgruntled or evil transvestites - it seems like they are happy every second that
